One of the issues with those on the spectrum (including myself) is taking society’s noble lies at face value. This has been a cause of consternation in my life.
One of the noble lies I believed was that friendships would last forever (in some capacity) if both parties were close enough at a certain point in their life. Of course I lost my closest friend from college to low status-itus. I could have saved myself a lot of grief if someone had gotten it through my skull that most of the idealistic things people say are aspirational rather than actual. Noble lies are a way for a culture to save face while not changing things structurally in any meaningful way.
For example the idea you have innate worth. Pretty people didn’t like the idea that they were just getting by on their looks so they invented the idea that everyone had worth regardless of looks. Of course if a noble lie is true for you (you happen to be pretty) then it is easy to believe and transmit. But when you are on the bottom (like a good portion of those on the spectrum are) all the noble lies are definitely lies. You must keep frame of reference in mind because a noble lie is often true to the person telling it so they are behaving in a rational manner.
The bullshit of noble lies are like bacteria in your gut, some is needed to digest everything else. However those of us on the spectrum need extra help teasing out aspirational beliefs from the ones that actually hold true.