One of the things in the NT world is there is blow back for pointing out the obvious. For example:
“Death is nothing to us. When we exist, death is not; and when death exists, we are not. All sensation and consciousness ends with death and therefore in death there is neither pleasure nor pain” – Epicurus
An after life is an NT thing, people on the spectrum generally only believe in things that have been shown to be true by scientific evidence. My grandma just died and I’d like to think she is in heaven but you know what, heaven is a fantasy. That doesn’t mean that people don’t have the capacity to believe it is real. It’s just that that takes faith which I do not have. If there is no evidence for something, it’s not true. The thing is, if I pointed this out to my immediate and extended family who are mostly all Christian, they would have a fit. I think this is because they know deep down that faith is the only thing keeping their belief in heaven intact. If they were to let their guard down and lose this faith then they would be back to where I am believing only in things that have been shown to be true by scientific evidence.
The other thing I wish people would have let me know that I would never get a job above a janitor job because of my visible visual impairment physical disability. My dad did mention this once in 2002 after me talking to him for a long time but I didn’t take it to heart. The thing about unwritten rules is NT’s want the world to appear more just than it really is so when someone outs some unwritten rules that show it to be less just, they are not looked kindly upon. If I would have known I could never get a job because of my thick glasses I would have invested my time and energy elsewhere. No point in learning programming if you aren’t going to be able to get a job in it due to a disability.