Just because you can’t conceive of something doesn’t mean it’s not true. Despite all our powers of intellect we can’t conceive of non-existence. It’s like how totally blind people don’t see black, they simply don’t see. And we can’t wrap our head around that.
People (especially religious people) like to romanticize suffering. So it’s incumbent on the person suffering to make others feel comfortable with his or her suffering by trying to justify the cloud by its silver lining. This is because we are uncomfortable with (and often can’t even put our head around) senseless evil and chaos so we ask those who suffer to do a kind of “damage control” of its worst elements for the rest of us.